Wednesday, 23 December 2009
I like kids (who I can hand back to their parents afterwards)
" Everyone should have kids", declared my friend.
Short of sputtering my food, I asked for an explanation.
" It is biblical, and why not?", she replied. And she continued on to describe how some women are unwilling to have children because they don't want their bodies to go out of shape and considers it unreasonable.
" But some ppl are just not meant to have kids. Isn't it better that they don't have kids if they don't have the intention (example as above)?", I shot back.
Obviously saying that is not going to work on a persistent mum to be. Her stance remains.
Just for the record, I am not a kid hater, but I am more inclined towards the "no kids" camp. Till this day, I'm still baffled by how ppl can have one kid after another and how they can adore a kid who is kicking and screaming till they are red in the face.
Just wait till another few more years when they grow up. That's when they will treat going home as a monthly if not yearly pilgrimage. Calling their parents when they have done something wrong and needs to be rescued/ spent their whole inheritance. I kid you not, that this may happen even when your child is well into their second decade of being born.
Having a kid maybe the most expensive investment one can ever make....... and not guaranteed with returns. You will still have to live with it when they treat outsiders better than they do the family. Run to their friends instead of you. Will you swallow your disappointment and move on or wish that you didn't give birth to one in the first place?
Parenthood is one tough journey. I really can't think of one good reason that everyone should be one, just like how some are pet owners while others are not. Think really carefully before you have kids, and when you do have them, there is no turning back!!
It's the christmas rush. I think I have seen enough annoying kiddies today. Santa pls take them away :p
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3 comments:
Amen, sista!
I don't think everyone who's married needs to be a parent!
And have a great Cambodia trip, will be keeping you in prayer!
Kids are not an investment, dear Joey. To see it that way would be unwise. Money spent on my kids is done so out of love and never expecting that I'll get a cent back. People who have kids for the sake of having an "investment" for their old-age obviously do not know, and will not experience, the true joy of parenthood. Just my 2 cents. God bless. -G-
mari: whoever that plans to be a parent, pls be well prepared and sure that you really want one!
~g~: That is the reason why sometimes writing is inadequate to express it all. Easier to talk! Of course most parents don't see their kids as investment, otherwise the kids would have ended up in the streets. Well, I know I could have. My purpose was to say that before you have a kid, think about all the possible things that can happen (not just the good times, but the possible disappointment that can happen), then decide whether you can still live with it.
When i wrote this article, I happened to witness certain things that made me think and a friend that is indignant that everyone should have kids.
Anyways, everybody is entitled to their two cents :)
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